“The essentialist approach…states that an etiologic mechanism exists for every disease, whether or not that mechanism has been discovered…Essentialism is the driving force behind science’s relentless pursuit to identify the origins for all manner of disease causes. After the narrowest possible level of cause has been identified, an essentialist approach to treatment is to eliminate or modify the cause.”—Rob Landel, Diagnosis for Physical Therapists
It’s quite dangerous to base so much of your life on being better. There is no summit and if you slip, you’ll fall right into inadequacy. You’re in danger of believing that everything and everybody around you isn’t good enough. And when I sit down and think about it, this is what I’m truly scared of…that my way of life has become dysfunctional to the point that I’ve to pushed away all my girlfriends, all my good friends, all my acquaintances and all the things that bring me joy because I’m in search of something more. I’m scared that on my pursuit of betterness, I’ll forget how to be happy.
“When I was anxious, you were there for me until I realized everything was okay. When I was uncertain, even about you, you were there for me until I realized you are someone I can be certain about. I understand why you feel insecure, but I promise you, I’ll be there for you until you feel safe.”—